You know what you must do before committing to a man, right?
Look at his father.
That is the information about the sort of man you will be using in twenty years you’re going to become.
And before he commits to you, there.
Consider your mom.
That’s the advice about everything you will be like in several decades he’s got.
As we age we become our parents. We can not help it.
We don’t just begin looking like our parents. We begin acting like these. We start talking like these. Even worse, we know them. The planet can be seen by us as they did.
(If you’re scoffing, parenthood could just change your mind. Those scripts have been hardwired into your brain. They are triggered by childbirth. You will hear your mum’s words come from your mouth, and you’re going to clap your hand over your lips in horror.)
There is a line dividing people that are young from old men and women.
You look at old fogeys, when you embalmed at the preserving fluid of youth and laugh. They are so over the hill. They’re so irrelevant. You’re the near future.
Then you cross that line yourself.
You obtain a mortgage. Start. Pop a handful of supplements. Feel your joints ache.
It’s occurred.
You’re OLD.
Being older is what makes us like our parents.
To a child’s eyes, all people are exactly the same. Adults never do anything interesting and talk about things that are boring. They run around chasing one another or do not scream.
Children are right. Only adults understand the pleasure of sitting. It is so nice to plop your butt in a chair. Who needs a vacation when you’ve obtained a La-Z-Boy?
But then…
Who wishes to become old like their parents?
Was that when you’re figuring out how to earn your way and 16 actually the long run you intended?
You’ve got to turn around, if you don’t need to turn into your parents.
You can not keep heading into adulthood using wrinkles on fast-forward.
You’ve got to become cool. Someone. A person who will run around and scream if it requires a Justin Bieber concert to perform it.
Here’s the way to get it done.
Suggestion #1.
Do not act your age.
It starts from youth and never stops. What is the cultural obsession with changing our behaviour based on some arbitrary number?
Can not we just do what we need instead?
The hottest older people do what they want. If anyone considers it proper behaviour for someone their age, they do not care. They do exactly what makes their heart sing.
Suggestion #2.
Avoid all contact with teenagers.
Teenagers will make you feel older. They have advanced degrees in scorn. They leave marks, spit you out, and will cut down you. Prevent any and all debates with teens. Don’t try to prove anything to them.
Suggestion #3.
Do not get stuck.
My parents had this idea that you were supposed to”wind up” in that nebulous period throughout faculty. Once you”discovered yourself,” you were supposed to settle down. That was who you’d be for the remainder of your life.
Seriously?!
Finding yourself is the last thing you should do. Nothing could be worse than deciding you understand who you are–and that is the end of the narrative.
You can if Madonna can reinvent herself. You don’t need to be the person who you are right now. That’s the glory of this midlife crisis. Who have not you allowed yourself to be?
You’re never stuck on your own life, even though it feels that way. Can anyone honestly say they’ve explored what there is to research? What if there is something out there so delightful and magical that it could change your life… but you never find it because you’ve stopped searching?
Extricate yourself from the sticky web of believing that is stuck. Don’t get stuck in anything: habits, personality, beliefs, or patterns. Remain flexible. Try new ideas on for size. Do things you have never done before. Tolerate a small discomfort. Cultivate the mind of a beginner.
And you could discover that you are nothing like your own parents were at this age.
Whew….
