Getting into a relationship can be a scary prospect. You may be falling head over heels for someone, but if you’ve been hurt in the past, you might be worried that you’ll simply have your heart broken again. Everyone goes through this as you enter a new relationship, so if you’re experiencing these emotions right now, don’t panic—it’s perfectly normal, and it does not mean that your relationship is doomed. But it does mean that you will probably have to learn how to open up and be vulnerable.
Vulnerability means that you accept the possibility that you might get hurt. It means that you are willing to take the risk because you know that it could lead to great joy—but if it doesn’t, at least you will know that you tried. Yes, this is difficult, but being vulnerable is worth it. Getting comfortable with vulnerability is one of the keys to a happy life and fulfilling relationships.
Why are some people able to be vulnerable while others are always holding back? Sometimes it’s because they have been hurt in the past, but sometimes it’s because of the stars…here is how vulnerable you are in a relationship, based on your sign.
16Fire Signs: (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius):
Fire signs are willing to bare their soul for someone they truly love…but there’s a catch. If you’re trying to date a fire sign, and you truly want them to open up to you, you’re going to have to work for it. There is just no getting around it. You will have to prove that you are worthy of their love and affection. A fire sign is not going to simply tell you all of their secret dreams, hopes, and fears on the first date—if that’s the type of person you’re looking for, you should be pursuing water signs instead! But we’ll get to that later—it’s time to discuss the fire signs. Let’s see what it takes for Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius to be vulnerable in relationships.
15Aries: Will Not Let Her Guard Down Easily
An Aries girl won’t simply open up to any guy. But they are willing to be vulnerable, if and only if you play your cards right! See, here’s the thing about Aries girls–when they do fall in love with you and admit their feelings to themselves, they will totally open up to you and tell you everything. They will hand over their deepest secrets on a silver platter. But this is not going to come easily–no way. You’re going to have show an Aries girl exactly what you’re made of if you want her to be vulnerable with you. And that is no simple task, as these women have high expectations–as they should, right? Honestly, every girl could take a page out of Aries book here.
14Leo: Will Need To See You Impress Her
Leo girls are very similar to Aries girls when it comes to relationships, but they are more willing to settle down with a guy than Aries girls are. Therefore, it’s a little easier to see their vulnerable side. Leo girls take a lot of pride in making smart choices. Because of this mindset, they do not want to make a mistake when it comes to a guy. But they’re not aloof, either. Picky, yes, ridiculous standards, no. They are realistic about what they can expect from a guy in a relationship. They won’t subject you to any silly tests in order to see if you will prove your loyalty or not. But don’t expect them to just let their guards down immediately and come running into your arms!
13Sagittarius: Won’t Tell You Everything Right Away
Compared to the other two fire signs, Sagittarius girls are much more willing to be vulnerable, but don’t assume that this makes them an easy catch! Sagittarius girls go through life with a more carefree attitude than Leo or Aries girls, so they may be more open to letting their guard down when they first meet a guy. However, some guys will think that this means they’re getting the full picture behind their personality after just a couple dates, and this couldn’t be further of the truth. Sagittarius girls will be vulnerable right away—but only in small doses. They will keep some sides of their personalities secret until you get to know them better, and they will constantly surprise you with different interests and stories as time goes on.
12Earth Signs (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn):
If you’re looking for an earth sign who is willing to be vulnerable, you might be in for a rough road, because those are few and far between! Earth signs are the furthest thing from hopeless romantics that you will ever meet. If you think that a Taurus, Virgo, or Capricorn girl will simply allow herself to be vulnerable after only knowing you for a couple months, think again! Earth signs pride themselves on being grounded and staying level headed, so they are not the type of girls who will fall head over heels for you after just a couple dates. You’ll probably be waiting for up to a year before they are really ready to let their guards down! Yup, that long. But trust us, it will be worth it.
11Taurus Will Wait Until She Knows You’re Serious
Taurus girls can read you like a book. They are so self-aware, and they are also very observant. These are the type of girls who can tell if you will be worth their time or not just by reading your body language. So you can’t fool them! Now, let’s say that a Taurus girl realizes yes, okay, you ARE worth it—what happens then? You better be prepared to stay in it for the long haul, because when a Taurus girl decides to make herself vulnerable, she is not doing it for anything. If you walk away after she finally tells you about all of her big dreams and serious fears, she will be seriously heartbroken, and the next guy who comes along will be out of luck.
10Virgo: Will Want To Take It Slow
If a Virgo girl says yes when you ask her out, she might just be acting nice and giving you a shot, thinking, “Well, why not?” But if she says yes to a second date, well, don’t get your hopes up just yet—but your chances are definitely improving. Virgo girls don’t like to waste their time. There is no way they will just stick by you if they don’t think that you have a future together. They will open up little by little. Maybe after a couple dates, they’ll start admitting some of their silly pet peeves or embarrassing stories from their past. And maybe when you’re officially dating, they’ll drop the perfect mask that they often show to the world and be realistic about their flaws. It will all take time.
9Capricorn: Wants To Hide Her Flaws
Good luck getting a Capricorn girl to open up and be vulnerable with you. Seriously, if you have your eye on a Capricorn girl, there is no doubt that you will have your work cut out for you! Getting a Capricorn girl to show her vulnerable side is not an easy task, not even for the most charismatic guys out there. But it can be done—it will just take a lot of time, effort, and patience. Capricorn girls do not like to admit their flaws to anyone. They are ambitious and driven, and they never slow down. To them, admitting that they worry, that they stay up late feeling anxious, or that they have screwed up in the past is very scary.
8Air Signs (Gemini, Libra, Aquarius):
When it comes to vulnerability, women born under air signs have a few different outlooks. This is because the signs that are grouped together under this element actually have very different personalities. But one thing is for certain—every air sign, whether she’s a Gemini, Libra, or Aquarius, values her freedom. Therefore, she is not going to settle for just any guy. If you want to see her vulnerable side, you are going to have to prove to her that you are worth it. We’re not saying she expects perfection—but you’ll have to get pretty close to it if you want to see what she’s really all about. She’s not going to just let her guard down for the first guy who hits on her!
7Gemini: Will Open Up When She Knows She Can Trust You
When it comes to Gemini girls, they may actually be more willing to be vulnerable than the other air signs. This is because Libra and Aquarius girls tend to be a little more uptight, while Gemini girls are the most carefree. So, how do you get a Gemini girl to open up to you? Show her your sense of humor, let her be her independent, spontaneous self, and don’t try to rush her into a relationship. She will have to take her own sweet time to decide whether or not she wants to be with you. In the meantime, just allow her to be herself. For a Gemini girl, the most important thing that she wants in a relationship is to feel secure while maintaining her sense of freedom.
6Libra: Is Scared To Show Her True Self
Libra girls have a tough time allowing themselves to be vulnerable. Why is this? Well, if you’re familiar with astrology, you may already know that both Libra guys and girls put a lot of effort into maintaining a good public image-it’s very important to them. But this means that deep down inside, they are dying for someone who will come along and show them that they don’t have to be afraid to be themselves. If you can be that guy for a Libra girl, she will love you forever—seriously, she will consider you to be husband material. But you’ll have to be very forgiving and patient with her. She is not used to vulnerability—in fact, she spends so much time running from her true self that vulnerability is difficult for her.
5Aquarius: Need To Know If You’re The One
Good luck getting an Aquarius girl to be vulnerable around you—seriously, we mean it, you’re going to need boatloads of luck. Because Aquarius girls can be so fickle when it comes to dating, it can be hard to tell whether or not they really want you. You might start pouring all of your time, effort, and energy into a relationship with an Aquarius girl, thinking that you have a great shot, only to find out months later that she was never really interested in more than a fling. Fun, right? That’s why you have to be careful with Aquarius women—you can’t tell whether or not she’s interested in you unless she straight up tells you, and if she’s not, she will never truly open up to you.
4Water Signs (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces):
Water signs are more willing to be vulnerable than signs under any other element. Seriously, water signs are just an open book compared to fire signs, earth signs, and air signs. Why is that? What makes them so different from the others? Well, here’s the secret—they are so much more emotional than all of the other signs that they have no choice but to be vulnerable and open with others. They simply cannot hold all of their feelings inside, and if they try, they will end up feeling extremely anxious, experience wild mood swings, or even spend weeks feeling totally depressed. These signs literally need to express themselves—it’s in their nature. Sometimes they end up revealing too much, too fast, but they don’t want to change.
3Cancer: Has No Problem Sharing Her Secrets
Oh, man, Cancer just might be the most vulnerable of all the water signs! It’s hard to choose one, but Cancer might take the cake. So, why are Cancers so much more vulnerable than other signs in relationships? They know that they are extremely empathetic—they simply soak up the emotions of everyone around them. They have a very rich inner life, and like all of the other water signs, they are very sensitive. Therefore, they can’t be with someone who they feel like they can’t open up to. It’s simply impossible for Cancer. They need to know that they can tell their partner anything and reveal even their worst flaws and the ugliest parts of themselves. Otherwise, there is no chance that the relationship will work out.
2Scorpio: Can’t Hide How She Really Feels
Is there ever a moment in a Scorpio girl’s life when she ISN’T being vulnerable? Seriously, this sign exists in a state of perpetual vulnerability. They don’t know what it means to be closed off. They’re incapable of acting that way! They are so honest it can be painful for the person they are dating. When they are upset about something, they will not hold back one little bit, and this can intimidating for a guy who is not accustomed to that kind of treatment. But in some ways, this can be a positive thing. First of all, you will know right off the bat what type of person you’re dating. There are no guessing games or mysteries. A Scorpio girl will show you exactly who she is from day one.
Pisces: Will Be Vulnerable From Day One